14 Aug Why You Shouldn’t Celebrate Your Success
One of my favourite questions to ask people at the moment is what drives you more – the feeling of winning or the feeling of not losing? This can be applied on the sporting field, in business or across personal life. For me I am driven by the desire to succeed and be the best but others are driven to not be the worst. Both are valid drivers.
However I think the most important thing to remember is to not only celebrate your success; but more importantly assess your failures. You learn more from failing than you do by succeeding. I believe we only truly lose from a situation when nothing is learned.
As Thomas Edison said ‘I have not failed. I’ve just found 10 000 ways that won’t work.’
The only real way to be better is to reflect and learn, but how do you achieve this constructively?
1. Disconnect to Reconnect
When we are busy doing we often don’t take the opportunity to reflect. This is why you should organise a regular brain break, I do so every 3 months. It doesn’t have to be a big lavish getaway, even escaping to a nice quiet place that you find solace for a weekend could be all the doctor ordered.
I also see too many people worried about others not coping in their absence and say they have to wait for the perfect time to get away. Reality is there is never a perfect time to go, you just need to make time to do it. In order for us to reconnect with our greater purpose and assess how we are going in achieving this we must disconnect. By taking a break from the day-to-day you are able to focus on the bigger picture of where you are and where you are heading.
2. Ask Yourself Some Questions
The basis of human psychology is our values drive our thoughts, our thoughts drive our actions and our actions drive our results. However there is often a disconnect between what we value and how we act.
To overcome this I start by writing down what it is I want to achieve in the next 5 years and in the next 12 months. I then reflect upon my actions and assess them based on the premise of Stop, Start, Continue.
- Stop: what are the habits and mindsets I have that are preventing me from achieving where I want to be?
- Start: what are some habits and mindsets I should adopt to get me closer to my goal?
- Continue: what am I doing well and need to continue doing in order to achieve my greater vision?
So this Christmas celebrate all your successes, take time to yourself and learn from past experiences in order to become the best version of yourself in 2016.